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Ever wonder why you get bored of certain things?

Boredom becomes a thing when you feel you could use your time for something more valuable than your current situation.

Ever wonder why you get bored of certain things?


It is because it has become less intriguing or monotonous for you and because of that your mind no longer derives pleasure or finds it intriguing to continue on that path


If you experience boredom in anything or find yourself feeling bored it's simply your mind telling you that you need to do something else that is more intriguing than your current situation.


If the current situation still holds interest in your mind then you wouldn’t feel any need for something else, but if it doesn't then you start feeling like you are wasting your time on those activities and that you could be using your time for more fulfilling things aside from that.


However, because we are naturally attracted to anything pleasurable that sparks those electric feelings in us and keeps us on the edge of "intrigueness" and discovering new things, It then makes it hard for us to be ok when something is not fueling that spark that we desire all the time


This can happen even for the things that we once found interesting, once the tempo of the event or feeling dies down and it becomes too familiar to us, we no longer feel the intrigue of suspension and spark of delight that we once used to feel, then it will automatically start feeling uninterested and boring


Boredom is a state and that state can easily be changed by something that will spark our curiosity or interest and shock us out of our slumber.


So, if you feel bored, the question you should ask is why you feel like that, and then proceed to find out what has become uninteresting or too familiar to you that it no longer excites you.


That happens all the time even in relationships, people after some time of being together and being all too familiar with everything about their partner, they tend to start feeling bored being around them and they will now start looking out for something else that will spark their interest and excite their mood


This situation can generally lead to cheating where one partner starts looking for a love interest outside of the relationship, and sometimes they are not doing it because they want to spite the other person or that they don’t like the other person, No, they still do, but they just don't feel excited around them anymore as they used to at the beginning of the relationship


This is why many relationship experts advise the need to undertake adventures together as a couple, go out on date nights once in a while as a couple, and engage in some other activities that will always keep the spark alive in the relationship so that they will not start feeling bored of each other over time just because they have become too relaxed and uninteresting in their daily lives


You will agree that this idea makes sense because why will a couple who were all over each other during their dating and courtship phase now become bored of each other and no longer want to stay in the relationship or start thinking of cheating? 


It's because they no longer feel excited being around each other. Although this sometimes might just apply to one of the partners and not both of them, it just depends on who is expecting the excitement more from the other person.


In defense of this feeling, one can easily say that the state of feeling bored is not necessarily a bad thing but rather a result of having too many expectations from a situation or person.


Thus, if this is caused by too much expectation, then a way to fix it will simply be to lower expectations and expect that things may not always be as exciting as they are expected to be.


Also, much more important is the case of communication between people of what is expected and how to go about meeting the expectation. 


This could be a good fix for couples or for someone expecting something from someone else without properly communicating their expectations.


If proper communication is in place and people know what is expected from them and have worked out how to make sure to keep up with the other person's expectations and keep them excited, then a case of boredom might not even come up at all.


However, even with these methods, human minds can be flaky sometimes and deviate from the normal expectations to something else, maybe due to peer pressure, influence, or comparisons.


Thank you for stopping by.


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