James Ezenachi

In our hyper-connected world, the quest for validation has become a pervasive force, subtly shaping our attitudes, decisions, and even our identities.  The essence of my saying that, "Never let the need for validation become the premise for your vision.” Is that it's a steal of your own genuineness and thus it was to serve as a reminder of the importance of staying true to oneself.  Relying on external validation can erode our authenticity, leading us to live a life that reflects the expectations of others rather than our true selves.  Let's break this down, on why this act can have a detrimental effect on an individual and also make them lose touch with their inner genuineness. The Allure of Validation Validation from others provides a sense of acceptance and approval. It feels good to be liked, admired, and supported by those around us. Social media, with its instant likes, comments, and shares, has amplified this craving for validation. However, this external affirmati...

In a world where balance and moderation are often heralded as keys to a successful and fulfilling life, it's time to challenge the status quo. While moderation has its merits, it can also be a hindrance, especially when it comes to achieving significant goals.  The concept of "moderation is overrated" argues that for certain ambitions, half-measures and balanced approaches can prevent you from reaching your full potential.  That is why I maintained that sometimes, going all in is the only way to achieve the extraordinary. Let's break it down more. The Myth of Balance Balance is a comforting idea. It suggests that by spreading our efforts and attention evenly across various aspects of life, we can achieve harmony and success.  However, this approach can dilute our focus and energy, making it difficult to excel in any one area. For those with ambitious goals, whether in career, fitness, art, or any other field, balance can be more of a barrier than a boon. The Power of ...

  Why anger is good for you. Anger, even though a destructive emotion, is a required catalyst for growth. - James Ezenachi Understanding this concept will make you value anger. If you have never gotten angry with your situations and inabilities, you may never be propelled to seek growth. Many of us are where we are today because of the level of anger that we entertain. And I know, we have been trained and groomed to think and believe that anger is a bad thing, a negative emotion that we should avoid at all cost. While I understand the reason for this logical position, I also understand that perspective is everything. So, if the reason why you have been told to desist from anger and the underlying emotions is because of the possible havoc it can wreak in a person and their fellow, especially when one person feels hurt by another and they are pushed to have a revenge. Yes, for that I understand and agree. However, when I talk about anger from a different perspective, it is in the lig...

  Make them invisible, unattractive, difficult, and unsatisfying. Increase friction between you and the behaviour. If you want to watch less TV, unplug it after each use and put the remote in a drawer. More friction, less mindless watching. “Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become.” The ultimate form of intrinsic motivation is when a habit becomes part of your identity. While this can be difficult and sometimes non attainable for many, you need to understand that making an effort to get to your desired level, might be all that you need to get to that level. TRY! Understand that  there is a connection between your habits and your identity. Your habits shape your identity, and your identity shapes your habits. It's one thing to say "I'm the type of person who wants this." It's another to say "I'm the type of person who does this." The more pride you have in a particular aspect of your identity, the more motivated you...